I’m too crabby to homeschool! – Day 1

Brain Trust,

I don’t think I have enough patience to homeschool….my kids drive me crazy, is this a problem?

Love,
Impatient Patty


 

Hyacinth:

Dear Patty,

I often hear people say this very thing, and I think it’s because people put patience in the same category as eye color or foot size. Here’s the good news – it’s not part of your genetic code! That saying, “patience is a virtue” is true, and since it’s a virtue, it can be developed over time when we commit ourselves to it. Lord knows (does He ever) that I’m imperfectly patient, but I’m better than I used to be. A couple of thoughts have helped me:

1. In the whole scheme of life, how do I want my kids to remember me as their mom and teacher? Red-faced and screaming, snorting like a Pamploma bull? Umm, not so much. So, when I feel myself becoming furious that my fourteenth stab at explaining the greatest common factor is an exercise in futility, I will often just quit. Yep, I quit sometimes. But I do come back later. When I’ve had a chance to think, pray, and eat chocolate, I’ll often have a new trick in my bag o’tricks. Bottom line: keep a long-term perspective and consider that they’ll remember not just what you’ve taught them, but how you taught them.

2. Later, you’ll probably laugh about this catastrophe that is trying your patience, so why not laugh about it right now? Seriously – just move yourself forward in time – it sometimes works!

Peace be with you!
Hyacinth

Keep reading each day to hear from the other Braintrust members!

Bull shares her thoughts tomorrow, May 1st…

Hear from Snow on Wednesday, May 2nd…

Doodle will wrap it up on Thursday, May 3rd…

Hubby’s Role – Day 4

Brain Trust,

What is the role of your husband in your homeschool?

Love,
The Mrs.


 

Hyacinth:
John and guitar
Dear Mrs.,

I think the issue of husbands in homeschooling prompts a lot of “the grass is greener” sort of thinking. I’ve observed that moms with very involved husbands often wish their husbands would butt out, and moms with hands-off dads wish they could have more help. These poor guys can’t seem to make us happy!

Like many of you, I used to be a career girl, and I ultimately gave up my career because I didn’t feel like I could raise my kids well because my career consumed my time, energy, and creativity. Consequently, I try not to unfairly burden my husband with the same expectations that I wasn’t able to pull off myself. A division of labor seems to work well in our household: I try to shoulder the majority of the homeschooling so that he can focus on his demanding career. I’m grateful that his hard work funds our homeschooling life.

One word of caution, here (and I’m really lecturing myself on this point): don’t become so autonomous that your husband feels left out. Ask him for his opinions – he will have great insights into the personality dynamics and quirks of the family members, yet he may be reluctant to offer his opinion unless asked. Also, ask the kids to tell their dad what they are learning. Not only is the War of 1812 a scintillating dinner table discussion in its own right, it will keep Dad connected to your homeschooling lives – everyone wins!

Peace be with you,
Hyacinth

Read Bull’s thoughts from Monday…

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Read what Doodle said yesterday.

Hubby’s Role – Day 3

Brain Trust,

What is the role of your husband in your homeschool?

Love,
The Mrs.


 

Doodle:

Ford Boys
Dear Mrs.,

If Snow were my wife and the mother of my children, I would be on a very long Carribbean cruise. Snow, when can I drop off the kids? And Bull? What are your discounted rates?

Each homeschool family has their own personality and dynamics. I am inspired by them all. Really, is it not amazing that these men all over the nation trust their wives and themselves to educate their children? It really is a call and sense of something much greater than probably any of us realize. I could not homeschool without the encouragement and support of my husband. His conviction has kept me trudging forward. He has never once asked about curriculum or our scope and sequence. But, on the other side, I have friends whose husbands are very involved in all of those decisions. So, each family needs to find their groove, and relax, knowing that they will find their way. Here are some pointers to include hubby:

1. Communicate. When I am overloaded or feel overwhelmed, I have learned that it’s not my husband’s responsibility to right all of the wrongs. He is my husband, not my saviour. (That’s where good girlfriends come in handy). But on the other hand, I also have learned to wave the “white flag” when I need some reinforcement. My guy is the first one to come to my aid and bring encouragement. He is a great sounding board and sometimes just having someone who has a vested interest is all I need.

2. Decisions. With our homeschooling, I do the research and have basically figured out what I want to do regarding curriculums, but I work to include my husband before making a major decision. This helps. This helps a lot. Two are better than one. And when the going gets tough, you have the moral support of each other. You are a united force in front of your children. Even if you make a wrong decision, at least you are making it together.

3. Older kids. As my kids have entered middle school and high school years, my husband helps in math, science and editing papers. My logical reasoning: I was an Art Major. He studied Biology and Chemistry. A match made in heaven!

Bottom line: like marriage, there’s no “perfect” arrangement; every family just has to find their own path.

Love,
Doodle

Read Bull’s thoughts from Monday…

Click here to see what Snow said yesterday.

Stay tuned to hear from Hyacinth tomorrow, April 26th!

Hubby’s Role – Day 2

Brain Trust,

What is the role of your husband in your homeschool?

Love,
The Mrs.


 

Snow:

Daddy drying hair

Dear Mrs.,

Bull makes me laugh… Some of my friends have husbands who are very involved in the curriculum choices, the daily schedule, the extra curricular choices…..the whole thing. That’s not my life. My sweet man has said time and time again that he trusts me to make the decisions about all of those things since I’m the one who is immersed in the homeschool world. Sometimes, I go to him when I am weighing options, but for the most part, we just tell him what all is going on. Like Bull, he is our “Principal.” This is an honorary title more than a functioning role. My girls threaten one another with “telling the Principal” more than I ever have. For that reason, it seems effective! If I had to sum up his role in one word, it is “CHEERLEADER,” and his vote of confidence keeps me going some days.

Grace and peace,
Snow

Click here to read Bull’s thoughts from yesterday!

Hear from Doodle tomorrow, April 25th…

Hyacinth weighs in on Thursday, April 26th…

Hubby’s Role – Day 1

Hubby’s Role – Day 1

Brain Trust,

What is the role of your husband in your homeschool?

Love,
The Mrs.


 

Bull:

Dear Mrs.,

He’s the “principal,” which means when I’m one smart-alec comment away from putting their sorry tails on the bus, he lowers the hammer and makes everything right again. He likes to remind me from time to time that he bankrolls the operation, which he does, but I make that possible by not charging the going rate for my services. It works for us.

Bull

Stay tuned in days to come to read what the other Braintrust members have to say about the role their husbands play in their homeschool!

Hear from Snow on Tuesday, April 24th…

Doodle shares her experience on Wednesday, April 25th…

Hyacinth weighs in on Thursday April 26th…